Well not THE Hey Jude theory, MY Hey Jude theory. I have been toying around with this for years now, and in a moment of I don’t know what, have decided to put it here, on my blog.

We all know the song Hey Jude,  and if you don’t – be ashamed. I love it. Used to love singing it in singing lessons, love replaying it on You tube, quite liked PM singing it at the Olympics Opening ceremony, that’s how much I love it.

Now, as you know, I have a lot of guy friends, and a lot of brothers. When I wasn’t so mentally busy with my own life I was known for my dating advice to them and also to girlfriends. The Hey Jude theory applies to both but I use it more for men. Mainly because I don’t think enough men are romantic these days and girls LOVE a bit of romance. My guy friends moan to me that they like someone, but do nothing about it. My girl friends moan to me that they think someone likes them, but he does nothing about it.

I’ve always thought that Hey Jude, means be confident in yourself when you realise you love someone and run out there and tell them. Do everything you can to try to win them over. Don’t be afraid.

Only a fool is cool.

Don’t sit about feeling sorry for yourself, ‘take a sad song and make it better!’

When I talk to people about dating most are afraid, they don’t want to say or do the wrong thing. They want to be cool and too many people play it cool in love in my opinion and it’s silly. Life is too short, if you think you have found someone special, get out there and tell them.  Obviously, I’m assuming that you are not an idiot. You haven’t just met someone last saturday, get caught in the trapping of lust and start crushing on them in an instant. I don’t mean that kind of special, bless you. I mean real, proper special. Maybe you’ve known someone for some time, maybe you smile at each other across the work canteen, you have great conversations and feel great when you talk to them. You see that person and it makes your day. But you do nothing about it.

I’d always thought the song was written for Julian Lennon about a break up and turns out I was close enough. Views conflict that it was written for Julian Lennon by Paul McCartney about his parents divorce, John Lennon thinks it was written for him about his divorce, there’s even talk that Paul wrote it for himself. Who knows? (Paul McCartney knows!) But I think it was written for us all, I think it’s really romantic.

In future, Men, Women, I encourage you to Hey Jude it. You have nothing to lose. If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out and the special thing you felt was just for you.

But if it does, if something so incredible and amazing happens…………. ? And if not, The Beatles have hundreds of other songs to listen to.

LyK x